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Hope and Direction in the Journey to Wholeness
I Couldn’t Have Said It Better
A friend of mine recently sent me a brief essay which I believe communicates so powerfully what happens when men meet each other’s needs in healthy ways. The author is Corey Beals, a man I have never personally met. I recently contacted him and received his permission to reprint this essay. Read the words of this man, as he one day found himself stepping into a bigger world yet!
When “Other’s Seeing” is Believing
Attachment loss is when one is dealing with a sense that they are unlovable, unworthy of another’s time and attention; in short one believes that their life doesn’t count for much and they might even question the reason for their existence.
Rediscovering the Lost Art of Mature Masculinity in the 21st Century
In my office I meet men of all different ages, from all different backgrounds who come to see me for all different reasons. Regardless of why a man comes to see me, it is rare that I come across a man who actually feels he understands masculinity and what it means to “be a man”. At the mere asking of the question most men give me that “1000 yard stare” – ironically, a phrase originally coined to describe the unfocused gaze of a battle wearied warrior.
The Flame Burns Brightest
A dear friend of mine will often ask men, “Who is your 4:00 a.m. guy?”. Who in your life can you call any time, day or night, and know that there will be a lifeline on the other end? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Do you know the answer?
When the Man You Married Struggles with Unwanted Homosexuality
For the man who struggles with unwanted homosexuality the important decision at hand is when to disclose this part of his story to his girlfriend, fiancé, or wife. The ideal time to discuss his issues with unwanted homosexuality would be before the wedding vows are spoken.
The Difference Between Unwanted Same-sex attraction (SSA) and Being Gay Identified
It is a very rare occasion indeed when I meet someone who has even a simple understanding of, or has ever considered that there is a difference between a person who identifies as having unwanted same-sex attraction (SSA) and a person who is gay-identified. I believe this is due in part to the media culture we find ourselves surrounded by which tends to lump the two together viewing unwanted same-sex attraction as identical to gay identity.
The ABC’s of Telling Yourself a Good Or Bad Story
We all do it. We all take data in through our senses and tell ourselves a story based on that data. Many times the data produces a true story immediately. By “true story” I mean that “the story I tell myself” is accurately supported by the data taken in by my senses.
A Parent’s Guide to the Birds, the Bees and Beyond
The phone rings and it is a parent (usually the mother) calling to set up a consult regarding her teenage son having unwanted same-sex attraction. “My son thinks he’s gay but doesn’t want to be, and we don’t know what to do to help him.” After a brief conversation, the mother agrees that she and her husband will make an appointment to meet with me.
If It’s not Broke, then Don’t Fix it
Reparative Therapy is one therapeutic approach taken with men who struggle with unwanted homosexuality or unwanted same-sex attraction (SSA). The particular clients who seek Reparative Therapy are men who have self-determined to work on diminishing these unwanted same-sex attractions in order that they might feel more whole as men.
Mens Work | Masculinity | Journey Into Manhood | Causes of Homosexuality | Marriage Therapy | Reparative Therapy | SSA | Unwanted Same-sex Attraction
