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World of Wonderful – Don’t Miss IT!

Unless you become like a little child… Earlier this week I met up with my good friend Dave to hike around beautiful Radnor Lake, a Tennessee state park and protected natural habitat.  It was a crisp, cool February day with the sun shinning and many of our city neighbors out with the same idea in […]

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“Oh, To Be Alive In Such An Age…”

Looking Back?  Looking Ahead?  Or Living Now? New Years Day: A day for looking back and remembering and a day for looking ahead, planning to do things different, better.  It is a chance to once again draw the proverbial line in the sand and believe that we can be more than ever before.  We become […]

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The Dwarfs Are For The Dwarfs

Defense Against Defensive Detachment To be detached from others is to believe such things as one is not good enough, one doesn’t belong, is not lovable, not cared for, doesn’t know how to connect with others, and the list goes on.  It is a sad state of being that many in our day find themselves […]

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The Poor Sin You Will Always Have With You

Body, Soul (Psyche) and Spirit In regards to the subject of homosexuality or unwanted same sex attraction (SSA) I am often asked the question, by clergy and parents, “What about the sin?”.   While the question comes from wonderful hearts of concern and only wanting the best for their congregants and children, it can easily […]

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So One Man Sharpens Another

I Couldn’t Have Said It Better

A friend of mine recently sent me a brief essay which I believe communicates so powerfully what happens when men meet each other’s needs in healthy ways. The author is Corey Beals, a man I have never personally met. I recently contacted him and received his permission to reprint this essay. Read the words of this man, as he one day found himself stepping into a bigger world yet!

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Finding Self-Worth Against A Paralyzed Will

When “Other’s Seeing” is Believing

Attachment loss is when one is dealing with a sense that they are unlovable, unworthy of another’s time and attention; in short one believes that their life doesn’t count for much and they might even question the reason for their existence.

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Man: To be or not to be?

Rediscovering the Lost Art of Mature Masculinity in the 21st Century

In my office I meet men of all different ages, from all different backgrounds who come to see me for all different reasons. Regardless of why a man comes to see me, it is rare that I come across a man who actually feels he understands masculinity and what it means to “be a man”. At the mere asking of the question most men give me that “1000 yard stare” – ironically, a phrase originally coined to describe the unfocused gaze of a battle wearied warrior.

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In Light of Community

The Flame Burns Brightest

A dear friend of mine will often ask men, “Who is your 4:00 a.m. guy?”. Who in your life can you call any time, day or night, and know that there will be a lifeline on the other end? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Do you know the answer?

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For Better or For Worse

When the Man You Married Struggles with Unwanted Homosexuality

For the man who struggles with unwanted homosexuality the important decision at hand is when to disclose this part of his story to his girlfriend, fiancé, or wife. The ideal time to discuss his issues with unwanted homosexuality would be before the wedding vows are spoken.

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The Story I Tell Myself

The ABC’s of Telling Yourself a Good Or Bad Story

We all do it. We all take data in through our senses and tell ourselves a story based on that data. Many times the data produces a true story immediately. By “true story” I mean that “the story I tell myself” is accurately supported by the data taken in by my senses.

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